So how would we know? Check in on the level of joy and ease in your life? Do you express yourself freely, not just your opinions but what your heart knows and feels? Can you hear whispered guidance from your own heart and follow? Do you feel beloved on this earth?
It turns out it's a universal thing in our culture for us to live from anxieties instead. I'm trying so hard to be accepted. I'm not good enough or I don't have enough. I'm not heard. I don't fit in. I might miss out on something. I can never do enough or be enough, always more. I don't know what else to do. I have to achieve more and be important or I'm worthless. I have to be perfect and someone might find out I'm not. What if I fail? What will others think? Recognize some?
So, how can fear lead us to nourish our lives? "Fear points a bony finger at everything that needs to be healed." offers Dr. Lissa Rankin in her book The Fear Cure. It can be our GPS device that points us directly to each of our fears so we can see them more clearly and also help us rearrange our relationship with fear itself. This allows for healing. Instead of struggling to win the wrestling match to not know or feel our fears, we can discover our courage that sets us free so we can experience joy. We can wake up to who we really are and breathe deeply.
"Just as hunger will lead you to find nourishment, fear can lead you to nourish your life. We are all capable of doing this, but without guidance and someone who believes in us, it is hard to do." Bernie Siegel, MD
|Offering the nourishment of golden bees|
We are going to be reading the book The Fear Cure by Dr. Lissa Rankin and having conversations from our own experience. Together we will pay attention to letting our fears transform us. We'll find ways to come into right relationship with uncertainty and impermanence. We'll find peace when we let go of the false promises of security. We'll discover the freedom of being true to your birthright, what you recognize in your own heart.
Small groups are the community of transformation in the 21st century. It's important to register as we are committed to the benefits of a small group and October 2 will be here soon. Here's the quick list of what to do next:
- Listen to your inner "Yes" and take the next steps without delay. If we tarry, our fears have predictable, sneaky disguises and will rush in and take over with reasons why it won't work.
- The series is $270 for the first 6 sessions. The special holiday gathering will be my gift at no charge. You can send your check to Carole Peccorini/Big Ideas, 18398 Riverside Drive, Sonoma CA before September 15. You can also register online here at the Sonoma Big Ideas website (see PayPal link above in the right side bar) using either your credit card or your PayPal account. There is an extra fee for processing PayPal.
- Go ahead and order your book The Fear Cure by Dr. Lissa Rankin right away. You can purchase it at your local bookstore if it is available or go online with Amazon.
- Write all the dates on your calendar. It is your commitment to yourself, your gift to you. You claim your commitment when you designate this time as already taken and not available.
- Begin reading the Forward and the Introduction. Make note of what speaks to you and arouses curiosity and feelings in your body.
One of the most amazing experiences in my own life this year has been the intimate discovery of a new relationship with my own fears. One year ago, just as we were getting ready to leave for the coast of Oregon, my CAT scan showed that a teeny tiny small nodule in my lung had begun to grow. The first word out of my doctor's mouth was "We have a problem."
I was both terrified and filled with sorrow as we drove up the coast. What if this was my last trip north to the beach? My last birthday? And my last everything else? I felt overwhelmed with sadness thinking of the string of potential losses.
However, our timing proved to be elegant. Once I was on the beach with our friends, picking up rocks, buffeted by the ocean winds, the smell of salt air and the cadence of the surf breaking itself on the sand ~ I suddenly realized that in this present moment I could feel my health in my body and I was OK. My fears were about an imagined future in my mind.
I quickly realized that my biggest job was going to be transforming my fears because that was what would determine the quality of my life right now. I love my life and care about living fully from my heart. Fears make me contract and miss what I actually have ~ this present moment right here and now. I must find a way to create a new relationship with uncertainty and impermanence that allows me to live today well. I've had a truly magnificent year and I could have missed it living from my small self in fear.
Fears unseen as well as those in our awareness cause us to contract and we lose our joy. Joy is something that striving can not bring back, yet there is a way. Our conversations matter and we begin to transform and heal as we meet together. If you feel something in you stir, we invite you to join us.
With a tender "Yes" for our life,